My colleagues over at Dating Dames, a wonderful b5 blog, which I am an avid reader of. Today’s post was about cheaters and it got me to thinking about a few things.

I have been cheated on several times. Some of my favorite lines:

“There’s this girl in town. For some reason, she thinks she’s my girlfriend.”

“No, Jason is into her. I had to let her sleepover so that he could put the moves on her when he came to pick her up this morning.”

” She’s my sister.”

“No, that was my roomate on the phone. He just has a high voice.”

“No one left out the back door when you were coming in. You’re probably just tired and seeing things.”

Being cheated on is the worst possible feeling in the entire world. Even if you find out about it after the relationship has fizzled, it still sucks. You question what you did wrong, how you could have changed things, etc.

In the Dating Dames post today, Michelle talked about worrying about being cheated on. That is a ridiculous way to live. Despite the many times some guy has gotten too scared at my awesomeness and slummed it somewhere else, I never think that the next guy I’m with is going to do the same. Thinking about getting cheated on can consume you.

Even just knowing statistics sets you up for disaster. If 1 in 5 guys cheats (as Dating Dames says), then 20% of the married men I know are cheating? If I know that none of them are cheating, then will my future husband be the one that falls into that 20% category? I can see 5 married men from where I sit at my desk. Is one of them cheating? And where the hell do they get these statistics? Who openly participates in these surveys?

Then Michelle says that there ways to avoid cheating. This is a lie. If you are an honorable person, you wont cheat. Stopping the porn is not going to help. Castration might.