Commitment
Before I start the post, I’d like to draw your attention to this article written by Eric over at Gen Go. It’s some sort of Toronto-get-up-and-do-stuff initiative for which I was interviewed because of my awesomeness.
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Yesterday, I did a post about people who are always in relationships. In one of the comments, George said something about giving off a vibe or portraying a certain image. I’m a firm believer in that. I think you attract what you are, and not what you want. Which is why I’m having issues with it today.
I think I scream comittment. There is nothing in my life that I am not committed to.
- I am committed to my fans: I write this blog every day before I go to bed. I write it after a day of work/gym/school. I get home at 10:30, and before I try to relax, I write. I don’t think I’ve missed a weekday post in 6 months. You’re welcome.
- I am committed to school. I have been taking night classes for about 3 years now working towards my CGA designation. During that time, I’ve missed one class, and that was so I could go speed dating to write about it for you (see my first listed commitment).
- I am committed to work. Ok, well now may not be a great example of this, but ask anyone who still works at my last job how much it sucks without me there. I’ve only ever called in sick once when I wasn’t sick, but that was only because my boss pissed me off. I have gone to work hungover more times than I can count. That has to mean something.
- I am committed to my friends. I don’t even like or respect some of them, but I stick by them no matter what.
- I am committed to events. When I check “yes” on an rsvp, I show up. Always.
- I am committed to my family. Any craziness that anyone thinks I have, comes from them, so to be committed to them is a huge deal.
- I am committed to my grudges. I was in the presence of someone who betrayed my trust about 4 years ago, and yes, I still hate her.
- I am committed to fitness. I was up at 6am this morning to get my gym on. How many people can say that?
- I am committed to my job search. I wore the same suit 3 days this week. ‘Nuf said.
I could go on. So after all that, I want to know what exactly is it that makes me so uncommitment worthy? There has to be one salient quality that overrides all my commitment-worthiness attributes, and I want to know what it is, because I am biased into knowing that I am perfect.
Here’s what I want in comments. I want new readers to tell me what they think of me, I want my regular readers to give an impression of me based on what I write, and those of you who know me AND read this blog to give me your impression of me. You can write them with a fake e-mail address so I wont know who it is. I have thick skin and can take it. I’m asking you to criticize me.
June 26th, 2009 at 9:29 am
I think you’re fantastic, honestly. I love what you write, else I wouldn’t read it. But, I think you’re overly confident. Yes, confidence is a good thing, but maybe you shouldn’t broadcast it so much. It can easily turn people off if they feel that the person is so sure of themselves, because it will almost make the other person feel as if they could lose you at any time as soon as you get bored. I could see someone that think you’re perfect to have issues and almost even feel inferior.
June 26th, 2009 at 9:42 am
I never know what to say to the over-confidence thing. Usually it’s what draws people to me, then they complain about it. Where’s the middle ground?
June 26th, 2009 at 10:36 am
I think confidence attracts people. Displaying confidence is hot. But, talking confidence is not. Just have to pretend to be humble. That’s what I do. I know I’m hot, I carry myself with confidence, but I don’t ever talk of my greatness. It makes your love interest feel inferior in my experience. Lowers their confidence. Everyone can see you’re totally hot, witty, smart and funny. No need to tell them.
June 26th, 2009 at 10:49 am
Well I don’t say that outloud…often.
June 26th, 2009 at 11:03 am
Confidence is awesome, but in order for it to last, you have to find someone with equal confidence. If you’re with someone who is not as confident as you, then they’ll quickly become self-conscious about it and either screw it up or run in fear. When you find someone as confident as you are, that’s when the commitment will happen.
As long as they’re hot, that is.
June 26th, 2009 at 11:07 am
R.I.P. MJ
June 26th, 2009 at 11:09 am
@Anonymous Do you know of anyone?? I agree, full on. Confidence is the #2 thing I look for in a man (after intelligence).
June 26th, 2009 at 11:11 am
I do. Maybe one day I’ll introduce you…
June 26th, 2009 at 11:32 am
“Confidence is the #2 thing I look for in a man (after intelligence).”
One of your recent posts said physical attraction was #1 - how does that fit into your statement today?
Loving the blog subject pictures.
How about a workout related post once a week for those of us keyboard junkies who like to get away from the computer once a day? :)
June 26th, 2009 at 11:38 am
I never said it was #1, but none of the other stuff matters if I can’t imagine myself putting my lips on someone’s body.
What kind of workout related blog post are you looking for?
June 26th, 2009 at 12:25 pm
Some of your early workout posts on this blog are great. Not as humorous as the drama related gym posts, but they add a good balance.
Also, is Teenwolf your commenter alter ego? :)
June 26th, 2009 at 2:39 pm
Well I’d rather be accused of being Darcie than Marty McFly.
June 26th, 2009 at 2:44 pm
Let’s keep the focus on me here. Teenwolf and I are in no way related. Yes Fred, I can do some fitnessy related posts.
June 26th, 2009 at 3:21 pm
Yet.
June 28th, 2009 at 10:35 am
Interesting post, I think you might be looking at things inverted though. Does making you committed to other things more or less able to commit to a relationship?
June 29th, 2009 at 8:53 am
Hmmm. Good angle. I’m TOO committed. I can’t win.
June 29th, 2009 at 5:16 pm
just found your site - love it, mostly because you remind me of me…so….the answer to the question is that yes, you’re over committed to other things because those are the things worth committing to. i haven’t read through all the old posts but i would venture to guess that you haven’t found anyone worth committing to…and i don’t think it’s your angle or what you’re putting out there into the world (all that law of attraction crap). i’m pretty sure it’s just a time and place thing. i would even go so far as to say that applying the law of attraction crap to relationship hunting is basically the “happy couples” in the world blaming us singles for being single because honestly, they’re just jealous of all the fun we’re having. so if they tell us that it’s “our fault” for being single based on “what we put out there and like attracting like” then they finally feel like they have one up on us. When really they’re home, getting fat in front of the tv and going to bed early so as to not have to sleep with their partner, while meanwhile, you’re enjoying all of your amazing accomplishments and not having to share them with someone you just settled on for the sake of being able to call someone your boyfriend.
June 29th, 2009 at 9:39 pm
Oh Sadie. You are the smartest person I’ve ever e-met.
August 14th, 2009 at 11:48 am
Nothing personal in what Im about to say, since I dont know you, but I guess you asked for feedback so here it is.
Im not sure if you actually believe some of the things you say, but if you do, then youre pretty high on yourself. You may be a great person, but if youre cocky, no one cares and theres only so much of that that other people can stand. Plus if youre hot and funny and witty, and your blogs suggest the latter, then itll show, theres no need to blatantly repeat it, because it just comes of as needy and trying to draw attention away from an attribute youre not so confident about. Everyones got a flaw, theres no harm in admitting it. I dont think it makes others self concious, if it was me, Id just feel sorry for you for not being completely comfortable enough in your own skin to be able to admit it. Im sure youre a great gal, let it show. As Nike so eloquently said in their ads “Let your game speak”.
You also tend to use stereotypes an awful lot. Which isnt a good thing, because theyre never completely true nor can they ever be used to sum someone up completely.
The whole “Im not committed because I havent found anyone worth committing to” sounds pretty silly to me. If youre as hot and awesome as you say you are and men gravitate towards you, then atleast one of them mustve been worth it. The laws of probability are against you on this. Ive been rejected by a couple of girls I thought were totally worth, but hey what can you do but move on? Conveying perfection the way you do only gives an illusion of insecurity about something else.
Thats my two cents, I could be completely wrong and I mean no offence, but you asked for it.