Did I Just Get Asked Out?
I’m a pretty aggressive girl. There is no doubt in my mind that the guy who eventually wins the title is going to be even more aggressive. What I can guarantee he wont be, is passive-aggressive.
I frequently get asked out by guys as a joke It’s clear that they want me to say yes, but if they joke about it and I say no, it softens their blow. Which works out well for me, because I would never say yes to a passive-aggressive man.
At the gym today, Mustang (whose name I still do not know) was telling me about some audition he was dying to hear back from. Here is our conversation:
Mustang: It’s been a week and my agent hasn’t called! I’m dying to hear back from her!
Me: Now you know what it’s like for us girls when we give out our number and men don’t call!
Mustang: That doesn’t happen to you?!
Me: From time-to-time (he doesn’t know about my most recent dumping)
Mustang: Well I would call you if I had your number.
Uhm…was he asking for it? Cause that’s not how you go about doing it.
Ok, ok. I’d go out with Mustang despite his passive-aggressiveness. He’s 6′2″, 300lbs, black with big white teeth. He doesn’t need much else.
November 20th, 2008 at 5:00 pm
Yeah, he was likely putting out feelers. It’s also possible that he’s not into you and he’s just reassuring you to be nice. But not very likely.
November 20th, 2008 at 5:22 pm
It doesn’t really matter if he was giving out ‘feelers’ or not. That fact of the matter is that you Darcie, were obviously giving off attraction signals and vibes to this guy and he didn’t respond accordingly. That’s not a good sign of a man’s courage when it comes to women at least. With him, you might expect a relationaship characterized by an inability to assert himself appropriately, thus, causing you to be the leader in every aspect of the relationship. Most women I have ever known don’t like a relationship like that; They want the man to be a leader-abeit a benevolent leader-produce and plan and have the courage to initiate it. The lady then CHOOSES whether or not she is willing to follow his plan. She has to decide if his
plan(s) inspire her or not. Of course, she also decides if his buns are inpiring or not also. But that’s another discussion.
By the way, have any of you had a chance to check out my website yet?
The address is: http://www.masculineadvicenow.blogspot.com
I’m sure you will agree Darcie that Canadian men need some real remedial education in the are of developing their appropriate masculine virtues and associated behaviours.
Salutee
November 21st, 2008 at 4:46 pm
So most women you know want to be lead? Maybe that’s just what they want you to believe and they actually control and manipulate.
November 21st, 2008 at 4:46 pm
@Mark- you could be right. Maybe he isn’t that into me. I’ve known him for a year and he hasn’t asked me out.
November 21st, 2008 at 7:39 pm
Right I see what you are saying here Darcie. In short form what I’m saying here is the following: Women Choose What Man They Will Allow to Lead Them Through Life. If he does a good job of leading, that is, he provides an interesting, fulfilling life characterized by a good material living, some excitement, and most important of all, he is willing and capable of being a good father to your kids, he is in. He must however maintain these qualities or the woman will simply discard him.
So there.
Don’t forget…
http://www.masculineadvicenow.blogspot.com
November 21st, 2008 at 7:47 pm
Moreover Darcie, I maintain that even if he isn’t a black guy, but has all of his ‘masculine virtues’ fully developed, you will find him irresistibly attractive. You will allow him to lead you. ;)