How Do You Get Rid Of A Nice Guy?
I hate it when people talk to me at the gym. I don’t go to one of those chain gyms trying to come off as a social club. Mine is one of those 24 hour gyms where the dank is part of the allure. There are very few women who work out there, likely because they are intimidated by the place. What I’m getting at, is that it’s not exactly the kind of place that you meet people.
Of course, this doesn’t stop the men from approaching someone. I rarely get approached on a Monday during rush hour, Sunday nights, when there are so few people around to hear a guy get shot down, is when they choose to make their move. I don’t think I have any approachable characteristics about me. I go to the gym, head down, work out hard, leave. I don’t smile, I don’t look around, I don’t drink from the fountain. I don’t understand why the #1 thing guys say to me when they approach me is that I seem like a really nice person. It’s not what I am trying to pull off at all.
I can’t remember if I’ve ever written about this guy before, but I call him Wayne because he reminds me of a guy I know named Wayne. I never asked this guy what his name is. He approached me a few months ago, and now he forces me to sit through awkward small talk at least once a week. There’s nothing wrong with him. He’s actually really nice and friendly. I just have no interest in him. I don’t even know if he’s hitting on me when he talks to me, but I just don’t want to talk to him. I have no clue how to get this guy to figure it out.
Tags: at the gym, meeting people at the gym
November 23rd, 2009 at 9:27 am
Thats an easy one, keep your headphones loud, and when you see him just say hey and keep moving. Dont let him get anything more in. If he sits next to you and starts talking then, if youre in the middle of your set say you cant hear him because of the music, once your done, say you need some water (and before he answers go to the water fountain. Do all of this in a semi-rush so he knows youre busy), and then when you get back start another set, and again, tell him you cant hear him because of your headphones. Repeat as necessary, until he gets the picture.
On a side note, I think men approach you because you give them that little window in which to do so. Im not sure what your routine is like, but if youve got little breaks where youre just sitting there, thats the perfect time for a guy to come and start talking to you. Theyll never bug you during a set. So, just superset or drop set everything. Also, it helps to have headphones on that are visible, so when they start talking just say you cant hear them and get back to your workout. If you do it right, you dont seem rude, just really busy.
November 23rd, 2009 at 10:50 am
agreed
and stop waisting time on the “construction worker” does he really eve have a job??
and mustang should he ever reappear
November 23rd, 2009 at 10:52 am
that was supposed to say “even”
November 23rd, 2009 at 12:24 pm
I say you just kick him in the junk… that’s about as clear a message as you can give… And then say… “Leave me alone, douchenozzle.” That’s what I do to people who ask me questions at work all of the time.
November 23rd, 2009 at 12:41 pm
@Brett I don’t work out with headphones. They’re irritating and get in the way. I will not compromise my comfort or my workouts because I have to avoid some irritating guy. Men: just please stop talking to us.
@Desire, I haven’t blogged about either in eons. You need to catch up.\
@Ryan, aren’t you a teacher? Isn’t kicking students in the junk frowned upon these days?
November 24th, 2009 at 1:17 pm
I like do the vacant far off stare with the “uh-huh” and “that’s nice” responses. Always watch the clock and just look semi-annoyed by their presence overall. I learned all this from my friend because I am FAR too nice to guys that come talk to me…