How Important Are Looks
I fully acknowledge that, especially initially, looks matter. I doubt any one can deny that. But how important do they become after?
I was dating this guy for a while, and a friend of his was getting married. Before he had proposed however, he asked all his buddies what they thought of her. The guy I was dating laughed about it after because they all lied and told him they thought she was hot. He wondered if he should tell him the truth.
I have to say, in all the thousands of hours I’ve spent gossiping about men, not once have I ever asked my girlfriends for their opinion on the attractiveness of the men I date. If my friends thought I was dating a troll, it wouldn’t bug me in the least.
The guy I was dating that I mentionned above…I’m pretty sure he hated me. I think if I were any less attractive than I am, he would have dumped me way before. He kept me around until wedding season was over and he no longer needed a hot date.
I bet he ends up with some chick who’s drop dead gorgeous until she gets married, gains 50 lbs and cleans out his bank account.
July 24th, 2009 at 5:27 pm
Ha, ha. Loved the last line.
How important are looks? Tjey are somewhat, but not all together important. My boyfriend was a good looking guy when we started to date (still is). He has put on roughly 40lbs in the past 4 years. I still love him, it doesn’t really matter how he looks. Which is good, because I have gained weight as well. Looks can’t count as everything, because if they did, then only the hot people would get dates, and the rest of us would not.
July 26th, 2009 at 3:11 pm
There’s attractiveness, and then there’s taking care of oneself. They aren’t mutually exclusive, but I could definitely not be in a long term relationship with someone who didn’t take care of themselves.
July 26th, 2009 at 10:27 pm
Janice, I was stalking you on FB the other day…you’re looking pretty hot.
Fred- that is a great thought…I totally agree. Being well-put together and taking care of yourself can separate you from the uglies.