No Means No
One thing I never understood about men, is why, once women say “no” to a date, they assume that you will change your mind. This is a VERY frequent occurrence, and is quite annoying.
About the time I started writing this blog, a short stalky guy approached me in the gym to tell me I had the best body there (duh), and that I was beautiful (duh). That has been the extent of every conversation I have had with him since then. I love the compliments, but it’s a little much. The last time I saw him, which was about a month ago, he said “I don’t know why I can’t think of anything to say around you. You make me so nervous”. Clearly he has no balls.Yesterday, I was doing cardio, flipping through a magazine, and watching the Jays…in other words, clearly occupied, and not looking for friends or conversation. Which, in man speak means “Please approach me, I am dying without you.” So Midget Boy comes up to me to talk. Tells me I’m sexy (duh), blah blah blah. I try to keep an eye on the game, and don’t put down the magazine, which in woman talk means “bug off”, but in man speak means “I love what you have to tell me. Please, keep talking.”
Then the dreaded part- he asks me out for coffee. (Dude, I’m a drinker, don’t be cheap, ask me out for martinis). I say “No, I don’t date guys from the gym.” In women speak that means “No. Not now. Not ever. Leave me alone and never speak to me again.” In man speak, this means “If you ask me 20 more times, I will say yes.”
The rest of the conversation went like this:
Midget Boy “I’ll stop coming to the gym if you come out for coffee with me.”
Me “No, really, I don’t think so.”
Midget Boy “I’m serious. I want to take you out for coffee.”
Me “No, really, I don’t think so.”
Midget Boy “When are you free this week.”
Me “Never. I have a very busy schedule, and I don’t want to.”
Midget Boy “I will be in the gym more often now. So I will ask you again next time I see you.”
Me “Please don’t. I don’t think it will happen.”
Midget Boy “I’m serious about taking you out for coffee.”
Me “I need to get back to cardio. Enjoy your night”
Midget Boy “Ok, next time we’ll talk about it again”.
Men- can you please tell me where I led him to believe that he had a chance after my first “no”?
July 10th, 2008 at 11:36 am
You smiled when you said ‘no’. Am I right?
He’s desperate and that .5% chance that you’re being coy is enough fuel to keep his tiny little self going.
July 10th, 2008 at 12:22 pm
Thanks Mark. Your opinions are always so insightful.
July 10th, 2008 at 1:25 pm
What a moron. For starters, he’s creepy. On top of that, his lines are terrible. “You’re sexy”? WTF. I can’t believe that such a creature exists.
A part of me feels sorry for him though since all guys had to start… small (pun intended). I mean, getting enough confidence to actually approach a woman one is attracted to and speak to her (and saying more sensible things than her being sexy) is something that is not built-in among men.
Still, that doesn’t justify his creepiness. If he’s a full grown (hehehe) adult man, then he should have gotten more confident by now, and understands that no means no.
Sorry for the vertically-challenged jokes. :P Can’t help it.