Prince Un-charming
Since writting yesterday’s post, I began thinking of the ex I was referring to. I don’t think I can justify 2.5 years with him as a learning experience. He was probably the biggest loser I’ve ever dated. As I write this, please keep in mind that it was 10 years ago, and I have since evolved into the supreme being that I am, and desired by all.
Some things that make this guy a big loser:
- when I met him, he was 26. He’d never heard of dental floss
- the above is not so surprising considering he never finished high school
- thanks to my urging, he applied to the adult-learning program at University. He used his student loans to buy a car. The car was a peice of shit.
- I was student poor, and he suggested we go to the Salvation Army for our food. There are so many things morally wrong with that.
- When we first moved in together, he spent his part of the first month’s rent on DVD’s…the day before rent was due.
- He as not attractive, charming, rich or had a bright future. Last I heard, he was driving a bus.
- He threw up when I dumped him. Twice.
So why then, did I stay with him for two and a half years? Like I mentionned yesterday, he was only supposed to last a semester, but then I decided to stay in Quebec longer. At the end of summer, without discussion or consultation, he quit his job and told me he was moving to Saskatchewan with me. I told him he couldn’t, gave him a list of reasons, and thought I’d made my case. The next day, I was paying for his bus ticket there rather than a flight for myself. I tried dumping him 6 times over the next few years, but he had a way of changing my mind. These must be the same kinds of people who swindle old ladies out of their savings.
While I acknowledge I didn’t know as much back then as I do now, I also don’t think I was a weak person, and I always had guys hit on me back then, why did I stay with such a freak for so long? Those were my best party years, why did I waste them?
July 17th, 2009 at 10:13 am
There were times when he was charming, or else you would not have fallen for his lines. You wanted to believe the best in him, and he caught you at a not so good point of university. I remember, you were contemplating whether or not to stay in the education program.
It wasn’t that you were weak, just a little naive about who he was. We were all vulnerable, and not everyone that we went to Quebec with was supportive (and still aren’t). You found someone who made you feel good (or at least for a bit).
Does that make sense?
July 17th, 2009 at 12:44 pm
I think we all have our “what were we thinking” relationships. Mine was also 2.5 years. Douche bags.
July 17th, 2009 at 12:46 pm
I also like knowing that I will always be his best (by far).
July 17th, 2009 at 1:00 pm
@janice, perfect sense. I’ll keep it under the “learning experience” tab.
@ashleydawn- Ha! I wonder why our friends don’t tell us when we’re dating losers. I hope that they would’ve jumped in if we’d planned on getting married.
I also have a few that I know I would be the best they’ve ever had.
July 18th, 2009 at 11:16 am
Baha. That does make me wonder. Hopefully, someone would’ve said something. My brother did always tell me I was way too good for him. I just didn’t listen until 2.5 years later. Oy, can you imagine spending your entire life with “the mistake”? Makes me gag. Ecspecially because he proposed to me. That’s when we broke up.
July 20th, 2009 at 6:40 am
Smart girl.