The Rebound
A girl friend of mine is always saying the best way to get over a man is to get under another. It’s been many, many years since I’ve had a rebound. The last guy that I rebounded from was the moron I lived with. I immediately…like that night…started dating another guy. Steve. Real name. We didn’t just start dating that night, we were in a relationship that night. Within a week I was going to his aunt and uncle’s anniversary party and watching movies with his parents. He was coming over to my place after work without showering…full-on relationship.
Sometimes, a rebound is a wonderful thing. They aren’t meant to be long term or meaningful. They are just supposed to bridge the gap between the route you thought your life was on and the route your life really is on.
He dumped me a month later in a mall parking lot sitting in my Chevette. I bawled my eyes out for 3 days. I specifically remember the alcohol infested night that I spent crying to his friends about it. (Yes, HIS friends). I worked in a shoe store at the time, and I remember the horrible empty feeling of a relationship ending lasting for at least a week. All over a 1 month relationship.
If we wanted to delve deeper into this, we would probably assume that the reason I was so upset over that break-up, was really because I was mourning the break-up of a 2-year live-in relationship. But it seemed so much easier to cry over the rebound than the moron.
That being said, after my last boyfriend dumped me, I chose to not date anyone for 3 months to avoid emotionally latching on to some poor unsuspecting sap and have been single for 4 years.
November 24th, 2009 at 12:54 pm
Ill gladly be your rebound guy fitDarcie. Never fret when youve got Brett!
On a side note, you own a Chevette?
November 24th, 2009 at 1:19 pm
yeah, because during that three month time frame you realized that when you weigh the pros and cons of being single verses being in a relationship, there are more pros for single. at least if you’re a girl…and this is a scientifically proven fact.
November 24th, 2009 at 2:52 pm
@Brett, I owned 2 Chevettes in my day. I think my dad had a fondness for them. I’ve moved on from the chevettes…barely, but I have.
@Sadiejayn, I think that in the past, I actually turned my rebounds into relationships…when the last guy dumped me, I think I became more aware of what I didn’t want. Having space between relationships allows you to find out who you are (sorry for the cheese), so you don’t NEED a relationship to keep you going. Since men are incapable of providing what I am looking for, I stay single.
November 24th, 2009 at 2:57 pm
Darcie, Just out of curiosity, what are you looking for?
November 24th, 2009 at 3:41 pm
Who the fuck knows.
November 24th, 2009 at 4:00 pm
After my last relationship ended, one of the main things I took out of it is that I wasn’t really looking for a relationship at this point of my life…
I mean sure, if somebody special comes along, that could change, but I’m not exactly out there making a concerted effort…
Which I think might be where Darcie is as well, correct me if I’m wrong…
Oh, and Darcie I’m sorry about the dd at 4:40 on Sunday morning…
November 24th, 2009 at 4:28 pm
Are you off your rocker? When have I ever said I’m not looking for a relationship.
You also didn’t text me at 4am on Sunday. I know this because you are still alive.
November 24th, 2009 at 5:32 pm
See, you did correct me… ;D
Just double checked, the call lasted all of 3 seconds, which means I must have come to my senses before it woke you up… Whew…