Unsolicited Advice
Yesterday I blogged about my last rebound relationship. The rebound, Steve, was probably my first experience dealing with a real douchenozzle. After he’d dumped me that fateful night in my Chevette, my friends, one-by-one told me that they were glad we’d broken up because the guy was a douchenozzle. While I don’t fault my friends for my decisions, I wondered why none of them spoke up while I was dating him.
Fast-forward to today. I abhor when my friends try to jump in and give me advice on my love life. I hate it so much, that those who put their noses into my love life never hear about it. If they ask me “how is Construction Worker” I tell them there is no change (then secretly wish horrible things onto them for not reading my blog in the first place). I can’t get into nitty-grittys with them. I’m 31 years old, have dated 2.9MM men, you think I don’t what’s best for me?
I have maybe 3 friends that I feel I can tell everything to. I was thinking about them and what makes me feel comfortable telling them about my dignity-losing antics, while the others are left to read about my awesomeness on FitDarcie. I think it boils down to this: I never ask for advice, yet always seem to get it. I am a great story teller. I LOVE talking about my life and having people comment on it, but I hate it when people tell me what my next course of action should be.
Or worse, I’ll bite the head off of someone who hears a hilarious story from me, then tells me to “hang in there” or asks if I’m ok.
If I manage to answer the “Are you ok” question politely, and it’s followed up with “are you sure”…you’d better be wearing armor under your clothes cause you’re gonna get the smackdown.
That being said, I suppose I can see why my pals might be afraid to tell me what they think of the men in my life. If I end up engaged to a douchenozzle, which I doubt is possible, then maybe some constructive, unsolicited advice might be in order. But come on, telling me I need to drop the Construction Worker? Really? Are you concerned I’m sitting around waiting for him to pop the question?
November 25th, 2009 at 9:25 am
of course people are worried that youre sitting around waiting for him to pop the question
you sat around an entire sunday waiting for him to come over
and he was “joking”????????????
why do you even talk to this wanker “at least 20 times a day via text”
lame
on both your behaves
sorry Darcie
youre awesome but really???
why would you even bother
get over the mutherfucker already
hes a megalomaniac stringing you along because youre pretty
and you like the attention
youre too hot for shitheads
hopefull youll fully realize that soon
guess i gave you advice
guess youll never talk to me again
November 25th, 2009 at 9:29 am
Someone like the Construction Worker doesn’t even register on my radar. I date guys like him for blog stories.
November 25th, 2009 at 11:23 am
you write good blog stories
however construction worker and mustang got nothin on
drunk- double- the- marriage- double- the fun- im -gonna- dump -you- man
dudes a rockstar
November 25th, 2009 at 11:26 am
hot or not - who doesn’t like attention…it makes the work day go by faster with the quick daydream about the hottie with his shirt off. and if he gives that to her via text then let her have it. there’s no delusion in that, just enjoyment.
and honestly, i think the construction worker just knows his role. he realizes that FD is way too much of a catch for him and that in the end, he wouldn’t be able to handle her and would get his little construction worker heart broken.
November 25th, 2009 at 11:55 am
Thank you SadieJayn. I couldn’t have said it better.
@Desire, trust me, I fuck up my life in way more dramatic ways than with CW or Mustang.
November 26th, 2009 at 10:19 am
Dating would definitely be different for you if there were no blog! True, you do make choices in your dating life for stories to share. Your readers need to recognize this and give you some credit. I mean you do it for our reading pleasure! And thanks for that.
November 27th, 2009 at 8:25 am
Sometimes I get scared that I make too many choices because of my blog. I’m afraid I’m going to turn down an amazing man because he wont give me a great story.