A common complaint from women, is that men don’t call when they say they are going to call. I’ve never quite understood why men bother saying they will, but whatever. What I wanted to do today, was to show men out there what it is what happens to us emotionally when we’ve had a date that we think has gone well, but we do not get the aforementioned call:

What you’re seeing here is the excitement level throughout the week from the first date on, rated on a scale of 1 to 10. Allow me to explain;

Day 1: Friday night, the date. You will notice that despite the fact that it was a fabulous date, our excitement level is only a 7. This is because we haven’t discussed the particulars of the date with our friends, and therefore do not yet realize how great of a date this was.

Day 2: The day after the date. After consulting with our friends, it is determined that we are allowed to be excited about the prospect of this date having a shot at the title. Excitement level is at its peak.
Day 3: The excitement is holding.
Day 4: This is when we start to wonder why he hasn’t yet called. The excitement starts to slip, and slowly turns to resentment, anger, and self-pity. Ice-cream may or may not be involved.

Days 5 through 8: Excitement continues to drop until, by the end of the week, we’ve pretty much forgotten who the guy is.

Now, let’s add in a few phone calls to the mix, but no promise of a second date:

Let’s say days 1 through 4 continue on as above, and no call is made.
Day 5: We get the first phone call. Our interest in the potential has started to slip, but the phone call is enough to bring it up again. You will note that the excitement is not brought back up to level 10. The only way to do this is to go out again.
In the above graph, you will notice a zig zag motion that lasts over the span of 2 weeks. Days 5, 7, 9 and 11 are days with phone calls but no date. The phone call reminds us you exists, and does raise our level of excitement, but never as much as was before. I reiterate that another date is the only way to bring the excitement level back to its peak.
Day 13 is interesting because it includes a phone call, but again, no date. You will note that the excitement level does not rise. By this time, we’ve become rather annoyed with the guys, and even a phone call can no longer revive our excitement.

By Day 14, a phone call would make no difference because we will ignore it. Clearly, the man does not have enough balls to be with us. We’re probably banging his best friend at this point.

From the above analysis, I will say that Day 3 (2 days after the fabulous date) is the ideal time to call a woman. If the date is indeed fabulous, then the day immediately following would be appropriate. If the date sucked, and we hate the man in question, then a phone call would do no good, and we wouldn’t answer or return it anyway.

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