Why Do Men Need to Know?
I’m not going to argue that being sexually compatible isn’t an important part of any successful relationship. But I don’t understand why men need to know that immediately. “Hi. How are you? I’m Ben. Are you good in bed?” First off, if we slept with men on the first date, we’d never hear from them again, regardless of how good it is. So why do we need to let them know immediately if we’re compatible or not?
A few years ago, I’d gone on a few pathetic dates with a guy we called “Urckle” cause he looked like Steve Urckle. There was nothing standout about the guy, but nothing that totally wanted to make me barf. So I went on 3 or 4 dates with him. During the last one, he’d gotten completely wasted at a friends party (who lived upstairs from me), so I’d offered him my couch to sleep on. I was hoping that after he left, I’d never hear from him again.
Of course not. He pinged me on msn messenger later that day, and asked what I was like in bed. He said he didn’t want to waste his time with me if I was a prude. That was the last sentence he ever spoke to me.
Browsing through my very disappointing eHarmony matches this evening, I was reading Joel from Toronto’s “Must Haves and Can’t Stands” (someday I’ll explain how eHarmony works…whenever I get my first crummy date). In there, he put “Sexually Knowledgeable”. I can understand how this would be important to someone…but you only tell that to women you expect to sleep with right off the bat.
Nice try guys, guess you’ll never know.
September 2nd, 2008 at 8:03 am
You should rewrite that as “Why do THE MEN THAT I CHOOSE TO MEET need to know?”
And I’m sure Joel is only writing that to be funny. Go meet some real men.
September 2nd, 2008 at 3:46 pm
I don’t think Joel has a sense of humour. I’ve never even im’ed with this guy. Not a funny joke.
September 3rd, 2008 at 4:44 pm
Sounds like these are young guys. Just give it time (as in time to meet more sincere people). It’s not normal for someone to be asking those kinds of questions.
September 4th, 2008 at 9:41 am
I’ve never known anyone who thinks that the single most important thing to know right up front is if someone they met is sexually compatible. Honestly.
Are they funny? Yep. Are they attractive? Sure. Is their family sane? Important. Can they carry on a conversation? Critical. But “how many tricks can you do in bed?” Never.
September 4th, 2008 at 9:52 am
Says the married guy.
September 5th, 2008 at 10:48 am
Sound like typical creepy old farts to me. Probably like 40 and still trying to relive high school.
Or one of those asshats who uses the term alpha male. Or even A male, I’ve heard. “I’m an A male. I can’t help it”.
Old people are gross.
I think Joel was probably just in the middle of a game of Adult Trivial Pursuit and he needs some help.