My Mom May Be Against Me
I’m pretty independent. Likely to a fault. It was well brought to my attention when I had this conversation with my mom.
This starts off with my younger sister moving to Vancouver. Yay for her. What a great place to live. Discussing it with my mom:
Mom: “She will have lived in so many provinces!”
Darcie (middle child): “That’s 2″
Mom: “What a worldly child! And she’s not even 30!”
Darcie (feeling ignored as most middle children do) “Mom, I drove across Canada, alone, when I was 19 to live in Quebec. You weren’t even worried. They don’t even speak English there.:
Mom: “Well. You did what you had to.”
(Darcie feels discouraged, and hangs up.)
….a week later….
Mom: “So J has to stay alone in her brand new house that her and her husband bought together. He is leaving to go training in Vancouver for 6 weeks. Can you imagine? She has to stay alone in that house until he gets back! In a brand new city!”
Darcie: “Oh yeah. I’ve been to new cities before, not knowing anyone and having to live there. It sucks when you’re all alone.”
Mom: “I bet is sucks more when you have a husband who goes away and have a house to set up! ….You just have lonely apartments that no one ever goes to.”
….dead silence…
Mom: “Oh yeah. You don’t have a husband…There was a time change wasn’t there? You must be tired. I think I have to go.”
And that is the life of the middle child…
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March 26th, 2009 at 7:39 am
Ouch. At least you are not at home still like my sister who at the tender age of 28 is moving into her first (yep, first) place tomorrow.
March 26th, 2009 at 8:56 am
Those quotes seem like they would be taken from a comedy routine. It also reminds me of my family and their different attitudes towards me and my cousins. I just go along with them and encourage their “paranoia” about how their little dears will make it through one day on their own.
It’s hilarious to hear their worries :D Then again I am a bit of a sick bastard so … enh
March 26th, 2009 at 9:04 am
My family is definitely comedy-reality-show worthy. Which is probably why I am a little batty myself. I let my mom think I am a slut. It makes things funnier.
Also to note: this post was the first one I’ve ever done after having 5 cocktails. I swore I would never drunk-post, but I don’t think I did so bad.
March 26th, 2009 at 9:08 am
@Janice I understand that it’s a little weird where you live. In Toronto, living with your parents into your late 30’s and 40’s is normal. That’s a whole other blog post.
March 26th, 2009 at 10:53 am
Sharing a house with an older sister and a twin brother who aren’t married yet takes a lot of the pressure off…
And living with your parents into your late 20’s is wrong… get out already…
March 26th, 2009 at 11:05 am
Maybe your singledom is genetic.
March 26th, 2009 at 11:57 am
The key was the “you don’t have a husband”. SOunds like you need to watch reruns of the “Everybody Loves Raymond” TV show, your family would fit in well there, just as mine does. Nothing subtle about your Mom at all!
March 26th, 2009 at 12:05 pm
They feel sorry for me (my mom and sisters). It’s fun.
March 26th, 2009 at 1:36 pm
Wow, what a family! I’m the only child and was out of the house and on my own for ten years so as the youngest were growing up I have no idea how their conversations would go. I can only imagine what it’s like to be the middle child. Maybe that’s why my brother is kind of like Dr. Jekyll and Mr Hyde…I swear, I thought he was my favorite brother til I moved in with him again a year and a half ago! Now I test the waters before I decide if I want to talk to him at ALL that day!! lol Poor Darcie, I would want to scream if my mom was like that to me! Being back in school has taken off the pressure from other family members of “Are you dating anybody?”
March 26th, 2009 at 3:10 pm
What gets me, is my cousin gave me the pity look once. You know, the “what a pity you are still single.” look, and she’s NEVER had a boyfriend. I would wager she’s never had a date.
March 26th, 2009 at 4:58 pm
Sadly, no one cares that I’m still single, especially not my mother. I think maybe she planned it this way all along. I’m sure it’s for my own good and all that :)